This is where I start posting my thoughts on dating and/or experiences I've had. Really just anything on the topic of men and dating. It's a broad topic.
So, today's topic will be on "Getting To Know Her". This is VERY important. It's all well and good for a guy to get a girl's number and ask her out on a date, but I hate it when a guy doesn't bother to find out what I enjoy doing. Here are some things I would like to see a guy do when asking me on a date. (And before you say anything, I already know I'm a very demanding person. This is MY eternity we're talking about here. I WILL be demanding.)
First, he should ask about my interests. A dinner date is good if he wants to get to know me before planning anything spectacular. A dinner date is the perfect opportunity to play what I call "the Question Game". It's a wonderful game that requires each party to think of a question to ask the other in turn. All questions must be answered truthfully. However, if the question is too nosy (like asking about exes on a first date) then the questionee can request that the questioner ask a different question.
Second, he should use the answers to the questions to plan things that I enjoy doing. That doesn't mean he needs to torture himself with a chick flick, but it does mean that he should take my interests into consideration when planning a date. If I say "I don't really enjoy watching a movie in theaters", he should try to plan a date that includes something he and I both enjoy.
Third, even if he's known me for a long time, he should still find out if I enjoy the same things I used to. People change with time and he should try to take that into consideration. I've definitely changed a lot in the last couple years and some of my preferences have changed. For example, if a guy wanted to get me flowers, he would think my favorite flower is a rose. Well, he would have been right up to a year ago. However, now my favorite flower is a lily. That's one thing that has changed.
Fourth, he should try to find some common, inside joke and use it as often as possible! If I laugh, I will remember him better and I will enjoy being around him more. If we've known each other for longer than ten minutes, there has to be at least one inside joke we share. If we've known each other for less than that, he can find something we both enjoy, TV shows being an excellent source, and use that to come up with inside jokes. In the case of a TV show, favorite one-liners are great for this. By having common inside jokes, a guy can learn a lot about a girl and her sense of humor and what she enjoys and that will help him decide if he still likes her.
I think I might have run out of things to say on this particular topic (for now. Mwahahaha). Stay tuned for more! ;)
~Rose
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