Men and Dating - Series 1 Episode 8

Qualities in a husband -

It is very important to know what qualities you want your future spouse to have. They need to be compatible qualities. For me, one of those would be he needs to be outgoing in order to keep up with me. What you want is up to you, but it’s a great idea to figure it out and stick to it!

Here is a good structure for qualities, things I would like in a guy. Take it and modify it to your own desires and remember to be the kind of person who can attract the person you describe.

One: Spirituality. This includes things such as Returned Missionary, holds the priesthood, active in church, etc. Most importantly, he needs to love the Saviour. I want to get married in the temple. I want an eternal marriage. That means my husband is going to have to put forth his fair share of work in the marriage to keep it an ETERNAL marriage.

Two: Physically fit. As afore mentioned, I am outgoing. I tried dating someone who couldn’t keep up with me. It was an epic fail! Now, I don’t require someone like a body builder, but I do need someone who isn’t going to fall behind when I’m going on adventures. Also, I want to live a long life WITH my husband. He’s not allowed to get sick and die young. He should be healthy without me harping on him to be so.

Three: Personality. I have a slightly unusual sense of humor. He’s going to have to be able to get that humor and laugh with me. He needs to be willing to accompany me on adventures I enjoy. He needs to push me to be better, whether that is a better person or better at the things I love. And of course, he should be able to introduce new things to me, things I will enjoy.

Four: Friendship. He needs to be my friend first. I’ve heard many people tell me they married their best friend. Those whose relationships haven’t worked out say they weren’t friends first. When I get married, I want my husband to be my best friend, someone I can share my life with. He needs to know the importance of family. He needs to get along with my family and my friends.

Five: Imperfect. Anyone who pretends to be perfect is far from it. I want him to know he isn’t perfect but to try to be better. I want someone I can laugh about my mistakes with because he knows he makes mistakes too. I love laughing with my friends about my imperfections. Those imperfections can help make the best relationships.

Six: Self defense. Self defense is important to me. I love being on the Marksmanship team at the U and am planning on buying a few guns this year. Also, I plan on starting Aikido again. If my husband wants to keep up with me, he’s going to need to at least be supportive of me. And I want a guy who can defend me. A guy who can’t even stand up for me is not a guy I can respect as my husband or even as a boyfriend.

Seven: Last but not least, I want a gentleman. He has to know how to treat me right. I’ve dated guys who at times it seemed their only flaw was that they didn’t treat me right. Guess what? It was a huge flaw. If he can’t respect me, I can’t stand to be around him. If he can’t treat me like a lady, I can’t treat him like an equal in the relationship. There won’t be a relationship.

So, I know what I want. The only thing left is to find him and not settle.

Do you know what you want?

~Rose