A Rant On My Own Mistakes -
This is just a rant. Some days, I really don’t like dating or guys. Maybe it’s because I’m thinking too much on past experiences. I haven’t dated very many really good guys because I have this tendency to settle. And I date guys from all the wrong places! I mean, it’s rather obvious that a catholic kid who does not share my standards whom I met in the library at school won’t be the best influence on me, right? Well, apparently I just don’t think about things like that when it comes to guys.
And the guys I date don’t treat me right! The last guy I dated didn’t open the doors for me until I told him to. After that, he always did but he just didn’t think of it to begin with. None of the guys I’ve dated can keep up with me with rock climbing either so each time I've been in a relationship, I’ve given that up. That is completely unacceptable. When I start dating a new guy, I stop hanging out with my best friends. A guy should never take precedence over best friends! So what am I thinking?!?
Girls, guys shouldn’t make you stop doing the things you love. You should never have to give up something precious to you for them. In my case, the guy really can’t be a bum who sits around watching movies all day. That just drives me out of my mind! I have to go outside and do stuff! Hiking, climbing, playing at the park. I don’t care, I just NEED adventures!
A husband and wife should be best friends, in my opinion. That means that when a girl starts dating a guy, he shouldn’t take precedence over her best friends because he should already be one of them! And there needs to be a balance between a relationship, friends and family. A life cannot be lopsided. You have to balance your life so that you don’t neglect anyone important to you.
And your family is important. I really don’t think I can marry a guy whom my family does not like. If a girl or a guy goes against either person’s family to get married, I disagree with the marriage. That doesn’t mean if the parents just don’t like one of the two people that the marriage is wrong. People will have their disagreements. I’m saying that if a girl puts her boyfriend first, then she’s probably not in the right relationship. This kind of ties in with my thoughts on true love. If a guy truly loves a girl, she won’t have to give up her family to be with him.
So basically, I’ve dated some losers in my time. I’ve gone on dates with some freakin’ awesome people! However, most of my boyfriends in the past have just not quite been up to my standards.
I talked to my sister-in-law about it. I remember hearing that people didn’t think she would get married because she wouldn’t settle for less than (basically) perfect. Turns out, Jonathan was exactly who she wanted. She didn’t settle and she got what she wanted. I have to say they have always been the cutest couple. I want a relationship and marriage like theirs. Therefore, I suspect I’m going to be asking Emily for a lot of advice in the future. For now though, I think I will learn my lesson from past mistakes.
DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU WANT.
~Rose
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