Men and Dating - Series 1 Episode 9

"The One" -

Once upon a time, in a land far from here (but probably where most of you are now), I was a Young Woman. I'm still a young woman, but I'm not a Young Woman. Anyways, I remember one particular thing I learned in Young Women's one day. One of my leaders was talking about marriage and whatnot, a popular topic. She told us "There is not a soul mate waiting for you out there. There are many men who can be your husband. You just have to pray and follow the commandments and you will find a guy who can be your husband." At the time, I scoffed. I thought in my young little mind that of course there was only One Person that I was destined to be with! But oh, how I have learned since then!

I very much do not believe in "The One" stuff anymore. If you live your life worthy of God's blessings, He will help you find a spouse that matches you. That doesn't mean there's only one person for you. Take this story for an example. Say there was this woman. She grew up in the church and tried her best to do what is right. Then there was this man. He grew up in the church as well. He served a full mission and was doing what was right. But right after he came home he made one mistake. One little mistake, just enough that when these two met, she didn't want anything to do with him. They don't date and the girl marries someone else.

But if he hadn't made that one mistake, they would have gotten married! How could the girl he was destined to be with marry someone else! Well, my opinion is that there is more than one person who can be your spouse. He can repent or change or whatever is required to fix his mistake and he can marry another girl who could be his eternal companion just as well as the first could.

If someone makes one mistake, then repents, that can't mean they won't ever be happy with a spouse. There isn't "The One" for anyone. There are many people along the path. I could meet one person and be happy with him for eternity but I might choose not to be with him. So I might meet someone else.

It's more a matter of trusting in the Lord and letting Him do the hard work of finding someone for you. Don't be passive, but don't stress it. Go on dates with the kind of person you could marry and trust in God. That's the point of this, I think. If you trust in Him, no matter what happens, you will be fine. You might be heart-broken for a while but Heavenly Father will guide you.

~Rose