Another Rant; Being in the Right Place -
Here’s another thing. How the heck do you expect to find a guy who is up to your standards if you only find guys in places a guy with your standards wouldn’t necessarily be. It’s not just a matter of being in the right place at the right time (since that’s a one in a million chance of getting right). It’s a matter of making sure you are actively in the places where a guy with your desired qualities would be. Think about it. If you want a guy who will take care of you and has a college degree and has goals in life with the determination to succeed, where will you find him? Certainly not at that late night party avoiding doing homework. No, he would be studying somewhere, striving to finish his goals. Would a temple-worthy guy avoid going to church? No, so why should you?
After my last failed relationship, I decided I needed to reevaluate what I was doing in my dating life. Apparently, everything wrong. I couldn’t remember the last time he and I had actually stayed for all of church. And did he ever go to the temple? Not once. Did I? Nope. Have I since I broke up with him. Still no. It’s one thing I’m working on making the time to go do. Do I go to church now and stay through it? Heck yes! Sometimes I go a little overboard and stay for my brother’s church when there’s food involved. I love my ward!
If I want a guy who has high standards and is goal-oriented, what kind of a person do I think he would want? That’s the kind of person I need to be. He’s not going to want a person who just lays around and doesn’t care about school. He’s not going to want a girl who doesn’t care about going to church. He’s certainly not going to want a girl who isn’t willing to put forth a little effort for him. There are a lot of things that I need to work on before I can find the right guy. One thing I have to admit I’m looking forward to is NOT finding a perfect guy. One thing I have come to realize is that my favorite thing about each of my best friends is their quirks, their imperfections, so to speak. To me, that is what makes them perfect. I look forward to finding a guy whose quirks match mine in a way that we get along well.
Guys and girls, take this to heart as well. Evaluate your dating life. Have you dated the kind of people you would like to marry? If so, good job. If not, figure out where you met them, why you started dating them if they weren't what you wanted and what you can change. Also, if you think you met the perfect person for you to marry (e.g. your family loved them, they matched your personality, they weren't boring, etc), then maybe figure out what went wrong and fix it so you can get that kind of person back.
In case anyone is wondering, I don't believe in "The One" crap. There are many people out there who could be your potential spouse. It just depends on what you want and what you do to get that person.
~Rose
No comments:
Post a Comment